Do you know?
I must confess I do not always know what I want; sometimes I ask myself the question and the response most time is “nothing”. Now that’s not really true is it? Have you ever heard of “dreams deferred”; no worries its just the word ‘dreams’ with deferred at the end of it. Deep!….yes I know 🙂
Anywhoz….its like this – you have plans, hope, desires, needs and all those little big things that keep us humans always wanting and never satisfied, especially ‘us’ ladies. Some of us have a laundry list of what we are looking for or desire in a man/companion and we are so damn adamant that we will not stray, or deviate from our pristine list of “impossible qualities”.(Qualities we ourselves do not possess, and here I stress do not.) Oft we think we do because we have built up in our heads a utopian personality that is not even a third of what/how we really are!
Girls be honest you know what I’m talking about…..in your head you can distinctly remember when in highschool you could eat anything and not gain one pound; your physique allowed you to wear almost anything. Fast forward five ten years…….work, hectic lifestyle; late night drinking binges; and any food of choice. Reluctantly you admit to yourself that you have gained a pound or two, but soon faced with the truth when you try on an outfit which on the rack looked like your perfect size; get into the dressing room and the vision in your mind is at war with the vision in the mirror. Despite the fact that the outfit you are trying on confers with what the mirror is saying..you beging to argue with the designer in your head that they are cutting the sizes too small these days; you remembered when you slid on a size six (6) pair of jeans with room to spare……and now the size eight (8) refuses to pass your hips.
Just like the vision in the mirror….reality begins to bite as the months turn into years without any prospective or even remotely promising “Mr. Right”, and you struggle to understand where and why have you not found anyone with at least five (5) of the qualities on your laundry list….hmmm do we even need to go there.
What I have come to realize as I continue to live life is that nothing ever goes completely according to plan, there is always some glitch, some bump in the road on a mapped out journey. Its like the more I plan the more the route/path/outcome changes, most times the outcome is beyond my highest expectation and at others its disappointing but workable.
The key is to remain flexible because if life was fixed; if each path was already mapped out precisely on time (punto!!!) what would be the joy of living. God could have made it so we had no choice, but He gave us a unique gift “free will” to choose whatever path we desire. So why look the gift horse in the mouth and say>>>no-no that’s not what I want, it must have this, and this, and this…….!!
Always expect the unexpected, enjoy your disappointments, revel in your misfortunes, embrace your shortcomings and most of all smile, and appreciate the little things, take advantage of every opportunity to share, assist, and encourage those less fortunate, never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever doubt yourself or your abilities. All you need to succeed has been placed within you by your Creator and that is all you really need.
Until next time……