My daughter is my main source of inspiration as she embodies the blessings of God bestowed unto me. I was living, but I came alive the moment she was conceived. God gave me a reason not to attempt to take my own life again……It screams of purpose!!!
Having said that….I registered her for a tennis camp to keep her summer days occupied and harness/channel some of that physical and mental energy she exude……also that I would not hear the words “mommy I am bored” 🙂 .. …yeah! Now camp is only for a couple of hours, and although I am one of those parents that’s not crazy about minors having cell phones……but being the involved, hands-on, over bearing (I don’t care), over protected (if there is such a thing in this day and age), always wanting a blow-by-blow run down on where, who and what is taking place with my child type of mother……I gave her a low-end cell phone – it gives a sense of contact……..and bet your bottom dollar that if class starts at 8, and I am not the one who dropped off the minute she is out of my sight I am dialing that number every five-minute on the minute until class actually begins, and when class lets out, every minute on the minute until she’s in the security of our home. I take nothing for granted.
Today was just like any other day I called her as class was out and immediately I knew all was not well, I heard it in her voice. Being me I wanted to talk about it right away so
I asked: What’s wrong?
Lil one: nothing
Me: whats wrong
Lil one: nothing mommy (nervous laughter trying to convince me….failed terribly)
I must have asked her the same question about ten times – no lie – and each time she gave the same response…so recognizing it was futile at the moment I put it on pause and asked about her game and said ok……love you babe talk later
Lil one: love you too!
In less that twenty minutes of that convo she was home and my phone rang……convinced now that something was truly bothering her…….got home…. I wind down a bit; took a nap and later we went for a walk. We talked about everything except what bothered her earlier today. Because of how in tuned I am to this child I knew exactly what the problem was since the very first phone call…..as we approached the house I asked my question……got the answer….along with:
Lil one:…..but mommy I could not tell you all of that with everybody there in front of me……how did you know it was something like that?
Me:…you are MY child and I know you, I know you.
Lil one:….(all smiles) mommy thank you so much for the talk.
Sometimes all they need is an ear…..tempted as we might be to lay out steps of how to handle or deal with the situation…there are just some things that THEY must work out, and through on their own in order to develop not only coping skills, but recognize and learn of the caliber of individual they are and have the potential to be. At times our meddling serve only to stunt their growth emotionally and they never develop proper coping mechanisms.
As we go along in life we have to always be cognizant that we are not alone and that not everyone was raised or brought up with the same value or belief system, and even if or when they are….we are all…..pay attention…….INDIVIDUALS.
INDIVIDUAL – separate, distinct, different, set apart…..a single person
Imagine what our society or surrounding would be like if every individual was in tune not only with their individual agenda, but incorporated with consideration for others around them and the survival of humanity. We are all vessels filled with hopes, dreams, potential and promise….not for our own selfish gratification but to contribute to the up-lift-ment and continuity of human existence.
Last week I went into a store and a well-known radio personality made the following statement in essence “ebry bady wan fe do dem own ting and nutin wrong wid that but dem ha fu realize that sum things jus hab fe be in place….dem in place lang befor man cum een..ah jus so e be…certain principles jus hab fe dey…dune set out lang time…ah wa me seer ya tall…me jus nah andastand sum neeh-ga tall….you can imagine if ebry bady wudda be in charge…..eh”
My dear dear readers my admonition to you is this:
Find your constant…find what it is that you excel at; it might not be one thing it could be several things….i.e. many gifts….you might not even like it or feel a passion for it, but you are good at it, better than your counterparts. Executing it comes effortlessly for you while another would struggle and still not produce, half the results you would. The problem is that we have allowed our appetites to over take our reasoning…we have become discontented, never satisfied, short attention spans always searching for and chasing the next big thing that has absolutely nothing to do with our gifts, all the while neglecting the one thing we do well. Many times it’s all as a result of green eyes and envy…..we see our counterpart excelling at something, we see the responses and accolades afforded them…..and we think I can do that too….and we abandon our talents.
Lets get back in tune……in tune and at peace with ourselves first, with nature second, and humans co-existence with nature and each other. Find your “one thing” or even if its many gifts remember every thing has its season so when you are in tune you will know which gift, when, where and who needs it! If we are not in tune we often burn out or over extend and become useless or lessen the impact or effect the gift was meant to have.
Remember not to cast your pearls before swines…they will only trample on them…..
Come on …intuitive intuition……..
Until next time